Alcoholics Are Like Horses

Horse Whispering Techniques Can Help Break the Addiction Cycle

“All horses can learn to be respectful – no matter how young or old they are or their background. Horses are big, powerful animals and unless you teach them to respect your space, you’ll find yourself in dangerous situations”. Resources: Horse Whisperers Clinton Anderson

In the world of horses and the people who really, really love them – nice horses are turning into crazy, rebellious, and even dangerous animals through the well meaning actions of very nice people. Regular horse training teaches us to get control of our horses and to use more and more pressure to interrupt their bad behavior patterns. We are taught to show him who is boss!

Unfortunately, because horses are VERY sensitive to pressure, they may rebel out of fear or frustration. As the battle of wills escalates, more pressure is applied to change the horse’s bad behavior. To our dismay, the vicious cycle continues until the horse becomes dangerous and we become afraid. Finally reaching our wits ends we either get rid of them or lock them up. We think it was just a bad horse and never realize our training methods played a big part in the demise.

The new Horse Whispering approach is completely counter intuitive to the old method of forcing and bossing. The focus is to build a true partnership with our horse, based on a relationship of mutual respect. Instead of focusing exclusively on the horse’s behavior, we focus exclusively on changing our thoughts and behaviors. Through studying horse psychology, we learn his language so we can interact with dignity and respect instead of fear or intimidation. We always smile and say “yes you can” instead of “no you can’t”. When we transform our attitude, the horse’s behavior seems to transform magically!

Now we repeat the story, substituting “alcoholic/addict” for “horse” and we can gain a new perspective about the addiction system.

In the world of alcoholic/addicts and the people who really, really love them – nice alcoholic/addicts are turning into crazy, rebellious, and even dangerous humans through the well meaning actions of very nice people. Regular society training teaches us to get control of our alcoholic/addicts and to use more and more pressure to interrupt their bad behavior patterns. We are taught to show him who is boss!

Unfortunately, because alcoholic/addicts are VERY sensitive to pressure, they may rebel out of fear or frustration. As the battle of wills escalates, more pressure is applied to change the addict’s bad behavior. To our dismay, the vicious cycle continues until the alcoholic/addict becomes dangerous and we become afraid. Finally reaching our wits ends we either get rid of them, or lock them up. Thinking it is just a bad alcoholic/addict and never realize our training methods played a big part in the demise.

The new Alcoholic Whispering approach is completely counter intuitive to the old method of forcing and bossing. The focus is to build a true partnership with our alcoholic/addict, based on a relationship of mutual respect. Instead of focusing exclusively on the alcoholic/addict’s behavior, we focus exclusively on changing our thoughts and behaviors.

Through studying alcoholic/addict psychology, we learn his language so we can interact with dignity and respect instead of fear or intimidation. We always smile and say “yes you can” instead of “no you can’t”. WE are the catalyst for transformation! When we transform our attitude, the alcoholic/addict’s behavior seems to transform magically!

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Pretty cool, huh? And it works if you work it!
If you would like to learn more about our addiction system classes, see the web page “What’s the cost? What’s the Reward?” for more details or send us an email at b.pennington@yahoo.com

* The Fine Print: This program is not affiliated with any treatment facility and is not to be considered counseling or therapy. Working with horses or alcoholic/addicts is potentially dangerous. Always use your own judgment and/or get the advice of professionals to find the right strategies for your life and your particular situation.